What can we expect from our relationship with the guru?

3. Resolve to stop expecting or worrying.

We should not have expectations, nor hope to get something out of our relationship with the guru as if it were a business deal. 

We should recognize that our own devotion is our responsibility--a task that we must undertake ourselves. It should not be the case that if the lama treats us in one way we will have devotion and if he treats us in another, we will not.

HH 17th Karmapa
Ogyen Trinley Dorje

From Torch of True Meaning Teaching, Jan 2017