What conduct contradicts taking refuge in the Dharma?

For example, a large number of people go to Kagyu Monlam. We bring along with us a lot of gossip... We spend too much time speaking of the faults of others, or trying to push one another's buttons. Also... much of our conversation seems to center around complaints and misgivings. 

But when we do this, we really need to turn inward and look at what we are doing.

His Holiness, 17th Gyalwang Karmapa

Ogyen Trinley Dorje

From teaching on Torch of Certainty and commentary by 
Jamgon Lodro Thaye 

at 31st Kagyu Monlam

Session 2